Dr. Lily J, therapist and ex-wife of actor Ethan Slater, has spoken out for the first time since Ethan filed for divorce last year. The filing came shortly after Ethan’s romantic relationship with Wicked co-star Ariana Grande became public, sparking widespread media attention and speculation.

In a candid op-ed for The Cut, Lily expressed her heartbreak and the unexpected turn her life took. “I really never thought I would get divorced, especially not just after giving birth to my first child, and especially not in the shadow of my husband’s relationship with a celebrity,” Lily wrote. Her words highlight the emotional turmoil she experienced during this challenging period.

Lily detailed how the divorce and Ethan’s new relationship cast a long shadow over her life, particularly during moments she hoped would be filled with joy. “Days with my son are sunny days when I can escape the promotion of a movie,” she shared. “The saddest days of my life are darker when I can’t.” The actress’s professional commitments and the public nature of Ethan’s relationship made it difficult for Lily to process her pain privately.

Despite the heartbreak, Lily expressed admiration for Ariana Grande. “I am so proud of Ariana, and to now be able to share in the celebration of it, I’m just grateful,” Lily wrote. She praised Ethan, saying, “He’s such an amazing person, and I’m so happy people are getting to know him.”

Lily also opened up about the couple’s decision to move to London when their son was just two months old. Ethan was filming Wicked at the time, and the move was meant to support his career. However, Lily admitted she struggled with the growing distance between them. “I didn’t understand the growing distance between us,” she explained, reflecting on the strain the relocation placed on their relationship.

Amid the controversy, Ariana Grande defended herself against rumors of an affair with Ethan. Ariana stated, “The most disappointing part was to see so many people believe the worst version of it. There couldn’t be a less accurate depiction of a human being.” Ariana’s defense highlights the intense scrutiny the couple has faced since their relationship became public.

Despite the painful end to their marriage, Lily emphasized that she and Ethan have managed to maintain a peaceful co-parenting relationship. “Both of us fiercely love our son 100% of the time,” Lily affirmed. The commitment to co-parenting suggests that, despite personal challenges, Lily and Ethan prioritize their child’s well-being above all else.

Lily’s op-ed sheds light on the emotional complexities of divorce, especially when it involves public figures and media scrutiny. Her honesty about heartbreak, co-parenting, and moving on resonates with many who have faced similar experiences.

As for Ethan and Ariana, their relationship continues to be a topic of public fascination, with fans eager to see how the couple navigates their future. Meanwhile, Lily’s courageous decision to share her story offers a poignant reminder of the personal struggles behind the headlines.